Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Unwavering Thoughts of Your Wanting
Seeking the approval of others places a veil over our eyes, which prevents us from seeing the truth. We become incapable of seeing the love or the belief that others actually have in us as well as our own brilliance. We step away from the truth of who we are. Many of us pray really hard, and go to church believing that being good will show The Great Spirit that we are deserving, Spirit will grant us our wishes, and take care of us. Then tragedy hits and we wonder why. We become angry and resentful, and turn away from Spirit as well as ourselves. When we turn away from Spirit, we no longer acknowledge our true selves. I will tell you the why to the tragedy. I cannot tell you specifically why your particular tragedy happened, but what I can tell you is that it did not happen because you were not good enough. We do not get miracles because of the way we live our lives. Spirit does not care about whether we are right or wrong. Spirit is not in a position of approving or not approving. Spirit approves of us always not matter what. It is we who do not approve. Spirit wants us to have an amazing experience and does not decide what is amazing based on what we did or did not do. We have the total power of choice. Right and wrong is irrelevant. I have looked back through my life and seen that no matter what the situation that arose, I was excited, I felt big and strong and then I waivered and shrank to smallness. This is when I did not get what I wanted. I had to approve of me and believe that I deserve what I wanted. Just look at children. They are unwavering about their desires. They do not even understand when we say no. They are the closest to heaven, because they just go there. We have had years of experience and training to teach them that their dreams will not make it. And, so we continue the cycle by teaching them. We tell them no, you cannot do that, what will others think, you have to be good or else. Do we really support their dreams? How can we when we do not support our own, and we are always telling them what is not possible. We squash them before they even get out of the gate. I use to wait for Spirit to say yes you can, here you are, go for it you deserve it. When Spirit all along was saying, “I have given you talents beyond imagine, use them and be fruitful.” However, I use to be unable to hear or see it, because of the veil that was over my eyes. I would get really close to my destination and then I would sabotage myself, and say, "No I cannot." I did not really think that I deserved it. I use to live in a place of lack, non-deserving, and void of self-love. I did not think that I was good enough. Our standards of ourselves are actually too low. For the next 30 days or at least until the end of the year, I challenge you to NOT think a single negative thought, to be unwavering in the belief in yourself. Do not allow doubt to filter into your mind, and if it does sing it a song of love to make it disappear. Think and feel only those things that you truly desire to happen in your life. Allow yourself to play with feeling your desires. See them in your mind’s eye, feel them, and write about them. Let all of your thoughts and feelings be consumed by them. Let me know what you experience.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Assumptions
"I apologize in advance for the length"
I am in charge of picking up two other children from school, other than my daughter everyday. Ahh!, the life of a carpool Mom. It actually allows me the privilege to so many wonderful conversations. It offers the opportunity to share and teach them in a way that is casual without them realizing that I am teaching them. I love the conversations. I learn and they learn. They have incredible imaginations and ideas of how the world should be. I am one of those Moms that if I hear someone say something that is not right I get excited, because there is a new found opportunity to demonstrate something different. On this particular day my daughter Giordana and the other girl in the car (let us call her Jane) were discussing the other child (let us call him Jake) not liking another kid. Both Jane and Giordana have very strong personalities. The discussion started to become an argument, until I put a halt to it. This was indeed a great opportunity for the three of us to have a conversation about assumptions. Jane and Giordana insisted that they knew how Jake felt. Now, how could they possibly be certain if neither one of them is Jake? Jake had already been dropped off at home, and was not there to put his two cents in. I pointed out to the girls that neither one of them could be certain. They were assuming that they knew. So much trouble comes from assumptions. We always like to be right, so much so that we are capable of stepping inside of another person, and knowing exactly what they are thinking and feeling. I explained to the two young ones that they were not Jake, their little argument was senseless, and by the way what difference does it make anyway. I asked them why they were spending so much energy on what Jake felt and thought. Neither Jane nor Giordana answered. What was more interesting to me was that I realized that we do this as adult’s everyday. Don’t we? We spend a lot of time assuming to know and, discussing what someone else did, why they did it, what made them do it and so on. We like to analyze everything down to the ground instead of putting the attention on ourselves, and what would we like to create in our own lives. My experience has taught me that what is really happening in these situations is that no one wants to talk about the elephant in the room. Jane and Giordana were beginning to have an argument, because it was easier to argue than for them to discuss their pain. In simplest terms, they both have issues. They irritate each other. They have never had a discussion in regards to what bothers them about the other. They have just ignored it. Now, poor Jake is in the middle of them. Sound familiar? We many times lose our seniority to other people and then resent them for having it. We let things go that are really not o.k. We many times do not feel respected by others and we let it go. We do not feel appreciated and harbor resentment. Then when a situation occurs, we can talk and talk about them forever trying to figure out what makes them tick. We pull the incidents a part. Women especially do this with men. We do not want to rock the boat so we let it go with an excuse for his behavior. We do not really make our needs known, but assume that everyone knows what we need. We think if I am really good then they will finally notice me and they will want to give me time, love and appreciation. News flash! It does not work that way, and never will.
When you assume so much about another, you have really walked away from yourself. Your responsibility is you. If your energy is wrapped up in, assuming it is not in your creations. Never assume that you know what is going on with another person or, how he or she feels. You never really know. People hide all kinds of things about themselves. Instead, how about trying to feel allowing, and allow those people to be who they are no matter what. When you are allowing you also give yourself a gift. You can stand in your power. It is exhausting assuming what we do not know. Instead try being certain. You will gain energy and learn how to manage yourself.
I am in charge of picking up two other children from school, other than my daughter everyday. Ahh!, the life of a carpool Mom. It actually allows me the privilege to so many wonderful conversations. It offers the opportunity to share and teach them in a way that is casual without them realizing that I am teaching them. I love the conversations. I learn and they learn. They have incredible imaginations and ideas of how the world should be. I am one of those Moms that if I hear someone say something that is not right I get excited, because there is a new found opportunity to demonstrate something different. On this particular day my daughter Giordana and the other girl in the car (let us call her Jane) were discussing the other child (let us call him Jake) not liking another kid. Both Jane and Giordana have very strong personalities. The discussion started to become an argument, until I put a halt to it. This was indeed a great opportunity for the three of us to have a conversation about assumptions. Jane and Giordana insisted that they knew how Jake felt. Now, how could they possibly be certain if neither one of them is Jake? Jake had already been dropped off at home, and was not there to put his two cents in. I pointed out to the girls that neither one of them could be certain. They were assuming that they knew. So much trouble comes from assumptions. We always like to be right, so much so that we are capable of stepping inside of another person, and knowing exactly what they are thinking and feeling. I explained to the two young ones that they were not Jake, their little argument was senseless, and by the way what difference does it make anyway. I asked them why they were spending so much energy on what Jake felt and thought. Neither Jane nor Giordana answered. What was more interesting to me was that I realized that we do this as adult’s everyday. Don’t we? We spend a lot of time assuming to know and, discussing what someone else did, why they did it, what made them do it and so on. We like to analyze everything down to the ground instead of putting the attention on ourselves, and what would we like to create in our own lives. My experience has taught me that what is really happening in these situations is that no one wants to talk about the elephant in the room. Jane and Giordana were beginning to have an argument, because it was easier to argue than for them to discuss their pain. In simplest terms, they both have issues. They irritate each other. They have never had a discussion in regards to what bothers them about the other. They have just ignored it. Now, poor Jake is in the middle of them. Sound familiar? We many times lose our seniority to other people and then resent them for having it. We let things go that are really not o.k. We many times do not feel respected by others and we let it go. We do not feel appreciated and harbor resentment. Then when a situation occurs, we can talk and talk about them forever trying to figure out what makes them tick. We pull the incidents a part. Women especially do this with men. We do not want to rock the boat so we let it go with an excuse for his behavior. We do not really make our needs known, but assume that everyone knows what we need. We think if I am really good then they will finally notice me and they will want to give me time, love and appreciation. News flash! It does not work that way, and never will.
When you assume so much about another, you have really walked away from yourself. Your responsibility is you. If your energy is wrapped up in, assuming it is not in your creations. Never assume that you know what is going on with another person or, how he or she feels. You never really know. People hide all kinds of things about themselves. Instead, how about trying to feel allowing, and allow those people to be who they are no matter what. When you are allowing you also give yourself a gift. You can stand in your power. It is exhausting assuming what we do not know. Instead try being certain. You will gain energy and learn how to manage yourself.
Friday, November 6, 2009
Is Discernment Necessary
The below post is a sequel to the previous post.
I asked Pan, how we can practice discernment if we are not supposed to think. Is discernment necessary? This is what he said.
When you begin to move from a place of certainty and commanding, discernment becomes unnecessary. You will no longer need it because you will be functioning from a place of knowing. Thinking has a great possibility of stopping your creations, because when you think doubt has the opportunity to creep in. It can be quite difficult to think without doubt. Discernment can also create doubt. It activates the thinking, which makes you ask the question why. The question why will get you into trouble. I am not saying that you should not look at your patterns. However, very few of you know how to look and when to stop looking. You tend to get stuck in the search, not show up on the other side to create change, and move forward. You spend many hours on the couch asking why and looking at your past and wondering why and how about your future. Do you see how all of this asking and wondering why can get you into trouble? It too stops your creation. When you move from a place of certainty, you are already sure there is no need to ask why. You stand in the stillness and observe the opportunities and possibilities coming forward. I know you are wondering then how do you make good choices. From where I stand, any choice you make is o.k. If you do not like the choice that you made, then simply make a different one. You are thinking that it really is not always that easy. As long as you see it, and think that it is hard then it will be so. How about instead of thinking that it is hard, even if your past has proven to you that it is, choose for it to be easy. You just might be surprised by the outcome. You all really work too hard to create. Creation is a simple flowing process. The why, and how is what makes it difficult.
I pondered this for a moment and then another thought came to mind. I understood what he was saying, but I found myself just a bit confused.
Do we need to plot out what we want like creating a schedule or a process?
Um, again with the thinking. If you must you can. I suggest that you observe how much you put into your process. How much time do you spend there? Does your process contain flexibility? Many times it does not. If it does not work out exactly the way you want it to you spend time judging yourself and your creation, and you become disappointed, instead of seeing the beauty in it all. Inflexibility stops the universe from delivering your creation with smoothness. When you can be flexible, the creation can show up in the best possibility. Do you see how you are still in control? A tree keeps its roots as it bends with the wind. It stands still and tall and moves only when needed. Now if that tree was to fight the wind it would surely snap. Yes, many times the wind is too strong for the tree and it snaps anyway, but this only happens when great change is necessary. A clearing out must occur. Sitting in the stillness and watching the realm of possibilities float in front of you, then making a choice is the way to practice creating with a certainty and a knowing. When you can see and feel certainty you tap into your mastery of creating. You will create without moving to the why and how, and then you will not need to use discernment. Now, let us go have some fun and practice. Sit in your center, observe without moving and thinking, begin to see the energy around you, see the colors, and see the possibilities. Now what do you want to create?
Make a choice and go for it. There is no judgment.
I asked Pan, how we can practice discernment if we are not supposed to think. Is discernment necessary? This is what he said.
When you begin to move from a place of certainty and commanding, discernment becomes unnecessary. You will no longer need it because you will be functioning from a place of knowing. Thinking has a great possibility of stopping your creations, because when you think doubt has the opportunity to creep in. It can be quite difficult to think without doubt. Discernment can also create doubt. It activates the thinking, which makes you ask the question why. The question why will get you into trouble. I am not saying that you should not look at your patterns. However, very few of you know how to look and when to stop looking. You tend to get stuck in the search, not show up on the other side to create change, and move forward. You spend many hours on the couch asking why and looking at your past and wondering why and how about your future. Do you see how all of this asking and wondering why can get you into trouble? It too stops your creation. When you move from a place of certainty, you are already sure there is no need to ask why. You stand in the stillness and observe the opportunities and possibilities coming forward. I know you are wondering then how do you make good choices. From where I stand, any choice you make is o.k. If you do not like the choice that you made, then simply make a different one. You are thinking that it really is not always that easy. As long as you see it, and think that it is hard then it will be so. How about instead of thinking that it is hard, even if your past has proven to you that it is, choose for it to be easy. You just might be surprised by the outcome. You all really work too hard to create. Creation is a simple flowing process. The why, and how is what makes it difficult.
I pondered this for a moment and then another thought came to mind. I understood what he was saying, but I found myself just a bit confused.
Do we need to plot out what we want like creating a schedule or a process?
Um, again with the thinking. If you must you can. I suggest that you observe how much you put into your process. How much time do you spend there? Does your process contain flexibility? Many times it does not. If it does not work out exactly the way you want it to you spend time judging yourself and your creation, and you become disappointed, instead of seeing the beauty in it all. Inflexibility stops the universe from delivering your creation with smoothness. When you can be flexible, the creation can show up in the best possibility. Do you see how you are still in control? A tree keeps its roots as it bends with the wind. It stands still and tall and moves only when needed. Now if that tree was to fight the wind it would surely snap. Yes, many times the wind is too strong for the tree and it snaps anyway, but this only happens when great change is necessary. A clearing out must occur. Sitting in the stillness and watching the realm of possibilities float in front of you, then making a choice is the way to practice creating with a certainty and a knowing. When you can see and feel certainty you tap into your mastery of creating. You will create without moving to the why and how, and then you will not need to use discernment. Now, let us go have some fun and practice. Sit in your center, observe without moving and thinking, begin to see the energy around you, see the colors, and see the possibilities. Now what do you want to create?
Make a choice and go for it. There is no judgment.
Thinking Stops Your Creation
Below is an older post for those of you that have read it on my other site. I posted it for those that have not read it. The next post is a sequel to this one.
One of my favorite places to visit upon entering my dream state is the plant and mineral kingdom. I have had many wonderful conversations with Pan. He is the doorkeeper of this kingdom. He is known for being the wild one. He is very gentle, strong, and kind. He is not at all as myths portray him. He wanted me to be sure that I told you that. Recently he asked me to share a lesson that he has been teaching me. Enjoy.
To create what you desire is really a very simple process. All it requires is precision. However, I understand that as beings of light having a human experience, you have forgotten how to use your tools. There was a time that you could create anything. You had fun sitting in the mineral plant kingdom creating all kinds of crystals. This was done in co-creation. With the veils of separatism, you have forgotten what co-creation is along with the laws of the universe.
All that is required is a simple flick of your hand in the process. Why do so many of you have difficulty creating? You bring doubt into the process. This is your number one detriment. You think to yourselves oh that would be so great if I could do this, and then you instantly go into why you cannot do what you wanted. You allow your thoughts, your mind, and your egos to get in the way. The ego was created to keep you safe, and its judgments are beneficial, however it is time to be the masterful creators that you are meant to be. It is time for the ego to be released. Once you learn that you are always safe, there will be no need for this ego. Enough of that, I have given you already too much to ponder. No thinking allowed. I am laughing. I know that this is difficult. Please laugh at yourself and be amused. The laughter heals. There are no mistakes here just practice. The more you practice the more it becomes natural and you begin to own what you know. Now let us begin. Consider something small that you would like to happen. Take a deep breath, and see it, feel it. What would be the first step to you achieving what you want? Continue to breathe. It is in the breath that you will find the answers and as long as you are breathing, the mind has a difficult time showing up. The breath gets in the way. It creates a block for the thoughts. When you see and feel the step that needs to be taken, just do it. No thinking, do it. Do you see how the thinking would stop you? Do you see how it cannot only slow down your creation, but halt it altogether. The rational mind hampers you. There is absolutely nothing that you cannot create. Yes, using your mind to make choices is great, but then turn it off before it gets to the reasons why you cannot. Think of it as a game even a fantasy if you must. Start there. In your dreams and games, you have all kind of options. You say that this is just that a game. I tell you, you are living a game. It is all the same. Know that what you create is already in existence. To pull it in your reality all you have to do is choose. Think of all the choices that you stop yourself from making. Just decide. If you do not like that choice, make a different one. From the choosing you will learn how easy it is, you will become more precise. Start small and remember the great beings you already are.
One of my favorite places to visit upon entering my dream state is the plant and mineral kingdom. I have had many wonderful conversations with Pan. He is the doorkeeper of this kingdom. He is known for being the wild one. He is very gentle, strong, and kind. He is not at all as myths portray him. He wanted me to be sure that I told you that. Recently he asked me to share a lesson that he has been teaching me. Enjoy.
To create what you desire is really a very simple process. All it requires is precision. However, I understand that as beings of light having a human experience, you have forgotten how to use your tools. There was a time that you could create anything. You had fun sitting in the mineral plant kingdom creating all kinds of crystals. This was done in co-creation. With the veils of separatism, you have forgotten what co-creation is along with the laws of the universe.
All that is required is a simple flick of your hand in the process. Why do so many of you have difficulty creating? You bring doubt into the process. This is your number one detriment. You think to yourselves oh that would be so great if I could do this, and then you instantly go into why you cannot do what you wanted. You allow your thoughts, your mind, and your egos to get in the way. The ego was created to keep you safe, and its judgments are beneficial, however it is time to be the masterful creators that you are meant to be. It is time for the ego to be released. Once you learn that you are always safe, there will be no need for this ego. Enough of that, I have given you already too much to ponder. No thinking allowed. I am laughing. I know that this is difficult. Please laugh at yourself and be amused. The laughter heals. There are no mistakes here just practice. The more you practice the more it becomes natural and you begin to own what you know. Now let us begin. Consider something small that you would like to happen. Take a deep breath, and see it, feel it. What would be the first step to you achieving what you want? Continue to breathe. It is in the breath that you will find the answers and as long as you are breathing, the mind has a difficult time showing up. The breath gets in the way. It creates a block for the thoughts. When you see and feel the step that needs to be taken, just do it. No thinking, do it. Do you see how the thinking would stop you? Do you see how it cannot only slow down your creation, but halt it altogether. The rational mind hampers you. There is absolutely nothing that you cannot create. Yes, using your mind to make choices is great, but then turn it off before it gets to the reasons why you cannot. Think of it as a game even a fantasy if you must. Start there. In your dreams and games, you have all kind of options. You say that this is just that a game. I tell you, you are living a game. It is all the same. Know that what you create is already in existence. To pull it in your reality all you have to do is choose. Think of all the choices that you stop yourself from making. Just decide. If you do not like that choice, make a different one. From the choosing you will learn how easy it is, you will become more precise. Start small and remember the great beings you already are.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Stop Those Self-defeating Thoughts
I awoke this morning feeling less than confident and filled with many voices. There were many thoughts swimming around my head as if in a race. The thoughts were not caring, supportive, or loving. They were self-defeating. They were the ramblings of a mind telling me why I should not, could not, can’t, not good enough, I am a failure and it went on and on. I kept taking deep breaths searching for the present moment, searching for my divinity that says I can do anything, and I am everything. I was quickly reminded why my teachers and guides have been instructing me to stop thinking. These thoughts were making me feel awful. I did not want to get out of bed and face the world. However, today was an important day. I had been anticipating it for the past few days. Today I have the opportunity to step on the path of a second chance at a dream that I had many years ago. Today I had a job interview. This was no way for me to proceed successfully. I had to silent the voices and thoughts moving around my head. These voices were going to be my doom, and stop my creation of landing this job, before I even had the opportunity. Luckily, I knew just what to do. I was able to observe thoughts without engaging with and stepping towards them. I knew that they were not who I am at all. They were completely self-loathing, and there was a peeling away of whom I am not happening. Many times these thoughts will appear as they are being released from our energy especially as we awake from the dream state. Our subconscious and spirits do a lot of work on the ethereal plane at night as we sleep. However, as we move back into the body as we awake, those things that we did not release while sleeping, sometimes take a hold of us and we awake feeling awful. They can disorient us, and make us not feel safe. There are a few tools that you can use to stop these thoughts:
1. Be the observer. Notice that you are not these thoughts. This will help you create a separation from your thoughts and shift back into who you are.
2. As you observe notice how these thoughts are making you feel, and shift your emotions to something that feels good such as a great sense of well-being.
3. Put a smile on your face and breathe. Your breath becomes stagnant while you sleep. Breathe new life into your body. Breathe in success, certainty, and well-being.
4. Sit in a meditative position, take a deep breath, follow your breath, see a rose out in front of you, and ask it to collect up doubt and failure out of your space.
(The breathing and rose techniques are available on my “Tools to Stay Present CD” http://www.donahspassions.com/meditationcd.html)
I was fortunate enough to remove those self-defeating thoughts from my head. I went to my interview excited, successful, capable, confident, and gracious. Looks like I will be getting my second chance. So far, the thoughts still have not creped back up. I am feeling great. Try out the exercises that I have offered you. Allow them to be playful. Remember, no thinking, notice the thoughts that rummage around. They are not who you are. You are so much more that you can ever imagine. Be the light you are meant to be.
1. Be the observer. Notice that you are not these thoughts. This will help you create a separation from your thoughts and shift back into who you are.
2. As you observe notice how these thoughts are making you feel, and shift your emotions to something that feels good such as a great sense of well-being.
3. Put a smile on your face and breathe. Your breath becomes stagnant while you sleep. Breathe new life into your body. Breathe in success, certainty, and well-being.
4. Sit in a meditative position, take a deep breath, follow your breath, see a rose out in front of you, and ask it to collect up doubt and failure out of your space.
(The breathing and rose techniques are available on my “Tools to Stay Present CD” http://www.donahspassions.com/meditationcd.html)
I was fortunate enough to remove those self-defeating thoughts from my head. I went to my interview excited, successful, capable, confident, and gracious. Looks like I will be getting my second chance. So far, the thoughts still have not creped back up. I am feeling great. Try out the exercises that I have offered you. Allow them to be playful. Remember, no thinking, notice the thoughts that rummage around. They are not who you are. You are so much more that you can ever imagine. Be the light you are meant to be.
Thursday, October 1, 2009
The Feeling of Stuck
The feeling of being stuck for me is one of feeling like a caged animal. I become a large ferocious cat pacing back in forth in a cage waiting to explode. I hate the feeling of stuck. It makes me feel angry, and a little crazy. I can feel it in my whole body, straight down to my toes. When I have felt stuck, what comes with it is the overwhelming need to move. It is like wearing a suit that is too small. I cannot breath and, I feel restricted. I absolutely do not like limitations just as much as I do not like it when someone tells me that I cannot. You could say that I am even somewhat of a rebel. I do not like rules and regulations. Most of them make no sense. This feeling of stuck takes away my freedom, and my right to choose. Just like a big ferocious cat, I sit in my cage and wait quietly. I become really present, and observant of everything around me, and as soon as I see movement, I roar very loudly. My roar is so loud that the universe shakes and the stuck breaks a part. I wiggle, and slither to break free of the chains, and then I pounce. I use my frustration and anger as a catalyst for movement. I move my body. Gabrielle Roth says, “If you move the body the psyche will heal itself”. This has held true in my own life. The key is to find stillness in the movement. Moving within and watching the waves as they grow taller, and then shrink down. I have felt this feeling of stuck and watched others in this place. Some people allow it to beat them down and inertia sets in. Others run around in circles not realizing that the path they are on is leading back to the same beginning point. The commonality is that unless you allow change to float in and accept it like a lover you will stay in the dark. How do we embrace the change especially when it comes in like a tornado? I have sat back and evaluated my life over and over finding the places where the tornado blew through. We think that we can prepare for the tornado, but you really cannot. Life has a way of taking your preparations, throwing them out the window, and forcing you to create on the spot. I have reinvented myself so many times that I am surprised at myself. I never saw myself as the chameleon, but my loved ones would tell you differently. When my daughter Annika was born and I found out, she was ill. They rushed her off to a separate hospital from me. It took me days before I realized that the ground beneath my feet was shaking like an earthquake. The earth was sucking me in. I am one of those people that simply do what is needed and, necessary in the moment. It can be days before I realize the magnitude of what happened. With Annika, I think it took me years. It was not until I was no longer able to lift myself up that I realized the storm was forcing me into submission. It was not until I allowed myself to be cradled in the tornado that I began to regain my strength and find myself once again. Remember the ferocious cat? I have had no choice, but to learn what they know all too well. Cats know how to be patient and watch the tides and tornado's come in. My experiences have taught me how to sense them and flow with them instead of against them. There was a time that I fought them, how silly I was, and how painful it was. You cannot fight turbulent waters. They will take you over and consume you like fire, and you will drown. There is another way; it is called flowing. You take a deep breath and step right into the tornado, but you wait and observe like the cat looking for a place to plant your footing. At first, it feels as though you have no control, and you shake, you may scream and you may fall down. Then you get the hang of it, and the shaking becomes rocking, and you find your rhythm. The breath becomes calm and powerful. You begin to feel and hear the tide. You become one with it. Change happens and you realize that you are better for it. You look around you and the world looks different or have you become different. The ferocious cat becomes a kitten when it is set free, and you realize that you are the one that conjured up the storm. It was the only way for what you desired to appear. It was the only way to receive your gifts. It was the only way for you to connect to the deeper parts of the feminine within. This is the courageous Journey to a woman’s joyous life.
If you would like to learn how to step into the flow, please join and Denise Cooper me October 17th at 10:00 am where we will be sharing the secrets of finding a joyous life.
If you are ready to:
•Learn how your habits and sense of well-being are sabotaging your happiness.
•Learn how to say no, to what you do not want and say yes, to what you do want.
•Learn how to visualize what you want and let your vision inspire you every day.
•Learn how to relax flow in the middle of a storm.
Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly, expecting different results.
Are You READY for something different?
Workshop Cost: $179.00 includes meals and materials
$75.00 for overnight lodging
Location: www.medissage.org
For more information please contact me at donah@donahspassions.com. To see Denise Cooper’s blog visit http://coachhr.wordpress.com/
If you would like to learn how to step into the flow, please join and Denise Cooper me October 17th at 10:00 am where we will be sharing the secrets of finding a joyous life.
If you are ready to:
•Learn how your habits and sense of well-being are sabotaging your happiness.
•Learn how to say no, to what you do not want and say yes, to what you do want.
•Learn how to visualize what you want and let your vision inspire you every day.
•Learn how to relax flow in the middle of a storm.
Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly, expecting different results.
Are You READY for something different?
Workshop Cost: $179.00 includes meals and materials
$75.00 for overnight lodging
Location: www.medissage.org
For more information please contact me at donah@donahspassions.com. To see Denise Cooper’s blog visit http://coachhr.wordpress.com/
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Co-Creative Parenting
I happened to mention to a few friends, that I would love to move back to NY, how I discussed the idea of moving with my daughter, and she is onboard with the decision. I received a look of surprise that was both amusing and unnerving. Did I say something wrong? “But, you are the parent”, was the response that I received. Yes, I am the parent, but I believe in co-creation. I cannot create something that involves another human being that is capable of making choices, and expect a good outcome unless they are on board with my creation. My daughter and I co-create. Co-creation keeps the household that we share in joyous harmony. I am not saying that I do not have rules for her to follow. I am not saying that I do not insist that she does what I say. I simply recognize that certain decisions involve both of us.
When Giordana was little, I learned that if I forced her to do something that she was not in alignment with, the resistance was so great that I would work until the point of exhaustion and ultimately regret it. I believe that parenting should be a co-creative process. We are not the owners, nor the dictators of our children. We are meant to guide them through there experiences, and be there when they need assistance. We as parents are here to teach them how to move through the world with ease and success. The rest involves co-creation. For instance, if I think we need to create a new experience such as a new car, I let Giordana know what I am trying to achieve and she assists me in that creation. I started doing this with her when she was about 2 or 3 years old. . I would ask if I could speak to the wise Giordana (meaning the wise soul that existed within her). Her face would change, and I would then hear a different voice, it was funny. I would inform her of what I wanted to do, and then she would pause for a moment and say “o.k. it is done”, then go back to whatever she was doing. When children are small, they have an innate understanding of the Law of Attraction. They know how to create exactly what they want. We as adults destroy their understanding of this Law by telling them all of the reasons why they cannot have, or do something. Have you ever noticed the look on a child’s face when you tell them no? They always have an incredulous expression. We are meant to be creative beings. A child accepting no goes against their natural intuitive abilities. As adults, we forget how easy it is. For us it requires, discipline, and focus until we remember the ease. My form of parenting may be a bit different, but imagine creating your family environment without resistance. For this process to work, what is also required of me is to be open to different ideas. I have to be allowing, and willing to see other possibilities. I must be humble, respectful, and listen. I do not parent with control and manipulation. I parent with the understanding that we are all beings of light; we are connected and have a purpose. It works for me!!!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Homeopathic Remedies to Add To Your Cupboard
When my eldest daughter was young, I discovered homeopathy. She got sick quite often, and although herbs were nourishing for her, they did not seem to be enough. I am partial to the use of herbs, but I found that homeopathy is another great natural and affective healing modality. Homeopathy is the sister to herbs, and they compliment one another. I had a homeopath once tell me “if you do not see a difference in 24 hours or even by the end of the day, the remedy that you used was not the right one”. I am not discounting the use of herbal remedies. Herbs are like food for the body. Homeopathy works differently. Homeopathy is based on like cures like. For instance, the homeopathic remedy Apis Mellifica is actually honeybee. The honeybee is shaken and diluted thousands of times, so that what you have left is more like the essence of the honeybee. Imagine if you got stung by a bee the symptoms that you would experience. You may experience swelling, puffiness, burning, and may desire to have something cold placed on the infected area. Homeopathy is like giving that person what there body is already experiencing to tell the body what vibration it needs to use to increase the immune system. The body then responds by doing so, and healing begins. Otherwise, it is almost as if the body is charging all firing pistols up and hopes that it gets it right. How about only needing to fire one pistol with precision? That is homeopathy. The remedies come in different strengths. I prefer to use 30c or 30x. However, some stores only sell 9c. You can still use this strength. The interesting thing is that if you do not use the right remedy nothing will happen. The remedies are also completely safe. Homeopathy takes the emotional as well as the physical state into consideration. You will also find a couple of books to read on the subject at the bottom.
Aconitum Nappellus (Monkshood) – used in the first signs of illness, especially after cold winds or drafts. The seems to get sick suddenly. There may be fear or anxiety. Also used when there are moments of shock such as after a car accident.
Books
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Kissed By the Faeries
Have you ever looked at your life path and noticed a common theme? I had an aha! moment today. Maybe not really an aha!, but a reminder. I was standing in the kitchen. I seem to spend so much time there. I was fussing about this very thing. I spend about, at least, 70% of my home time in the kitchen. I was washing dishes and making a young coconut drink with my favorite fruits. We have the sniffles moving about my house today. I wanted to give Giordana something nourishing. Next thing I knew, in addition to the drink, I was cutting up fruit for a fruit salad. I thought to myself, the drink is not enough she needs something on her stomach. Well, after the fruit salad I started making a healing soup. The simple drink grew. I have things to do…look at the time….o.k. I can use the crock pot…and then I can go out. I paused for a moment while I wiped off the counter, I smiled, I had just been kissed by the fairies. This is who I am. I make healing foods and medicines for people. Aha! I just cannot help it. I have always done it. It comes naturally to me. I made Love Is Oil to heal the heart and body butter to bring joy. As I move through the world and have experiences that touch me I create and share. When someone is sick or sad my spirit races to how I can serve them, and help them shift. There are times when I just sit still, because that is all that is needed, and others when I concoct something. Funny! I absolutely love it. Perhaps in another life I was one of those old wise women in the village that made the potions to heal all ailments. My neighbor warns people that if I invite them over for tea, “be careful you will become addicted”. She says, that” my tea is best, and why do I hide the recipe”. I tell her it is special. It truly is. I use it to welcome people into my life. I wish to warm their hearts while they are with me and send them away with soothing. Did you ever take a look at your path and notice a common theme? It is there. I promise you. I also guarantee that you will find more than one. I was kissed by the faeries today, and I am grateful.
Here is the recipe that I created. I am not great at measuring things out. I could by intuition and it is always different. However, I tried to be as precise as possible.
Healing Soup I
1 cup of red lentils
3/4 cup of barley
5 small carrots peeled and sliced
1 small to medium size leek chopped
2 tbsp of nutritional yeast (health food store)
1 1/2 tbsp of Hon Dashi (Japanese fish stock soup found in asian markets)
2 large dried shitaki mushrooms (found in asian markets)
3/4 tsp of cumin or to taste
4 garlic cloves sliced
1/4 cup of onion
1/2 cup of cilantro
Sea salt to taste
Black pepper to taste
Fresh Kale as much as you want
Hemp Seed (health food store
Place all ingredients except for Kale, onion and only 1/4 cup of cilantro into a crock pot. Fill crock pot with water. I prefer to use filtered water. A crock post will allow the seasoning to soak in, and everything to cook slowly, and maintain nutrients and taste. It will also allow you to go out and enjoy your day if you like. It will take a few hours to cook the lentils. You will know when it is done when lentils are soft. When lentils are soft add the onion, the rest of the cilantro ( feel free to add extra cilantro if you want, I add a lot, I love it), Chop the kale. Only cook the soup a little longer. You really only want the kale to get warm, not cook all the the way. This way you will get some raw veggies in. Raw veggies have the most nutrition. Feel free to alter the recipe as much as you want. You can add other veggies if you want. Spoon into bowls and sprinkle with hemp seed. Enjoy!
Here is the recipe that I created. I am not great at measuring things out. I could by intuition and it is always different. However, I tried to be as precise as possible.
Healing Soup I
1 cup of red lentils
3/4 cup of barley
5 small carrots peeled and sliced
1 small to medium size leek chopped
2 tbsp of nutritional yeast (health food store)
1 1/2 tbsp of Hon Dashi (Japanese fish stock soup found in asian markets)
2 large dried shitaki mushrooms (found in asian markets)
3/4 tsp of cumin or to taste
4 garlic cloves sliced
1/4 cup of onion
1/2 cup of cilantro
Sea salt to taste
Black pepper to taste
Fresh Kale as much as you want
Hemp Seed (health food store
Place all ingredients except for Kale, onion and only 1/4 cup of cilantro into a crock pot. Fill crock pot with water. I prefer to use filtered water. A crock post will allow the seasoning to soak in, and everything to cook slowly, and maintain nutrients and taste. It will also allow you to go out and enjoy your day if you like. It will take a few hours to cook the lentils. You will know when it is done when lentils are soft. When lentils are soft add the onion, the rest of the cilantro ( feel free to add extra cilantro if you want, I add a lot, I love it), Chop the kale. Only cook the soup a little longer. You really only want the kale to get warm, not cook all the the way. This way you will get some raw veggies in. Raw veggies have the most nutrition. Feel free to alter the recipe as much as you want. You can add other veggies if you want. Spoon into bowls and sprinkle with hemp seed. Enjoy!
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Children Call For Change
My daughter started 7th grade last week. There is such a great change in who she is now compared to last year. She and her peers are so much more aware of the world around them. They are beginning to question everything, and want to know why. They are paying attention to politics, and creating sustainable ideas to change the environment. I just love hearing about their ideas. I think that they are so much more conscious than we ever were. They are simply amazing. However, this does leave adults around them in a quandary. Change can be difficult. It is really easy to give a child a rule and tell them follow it, or insist that they do what we say, but not what we do. Guess what? How is that really working for us? It isn’t. These children are brighter and quicker. It is my belief that children are born to teach us who we are. They are here to challenge our ideas and belief systems so that we can grow, change and heal. My daughter’s classmates did just that.
The school put out a student handbook that had to be signed by students and parents. The students did not agree with the rules and regulations so they put together a petition against it. To my dismay, instead of the school using it as a teaching opportunity their solution was to remove the student signature page. I am so disappointed. This was such a great opportunity to teach. I had a vision of a student teacher debate, of teachers sitting down and picking apart the rules with the students, and discussing how to make them better and clearer. I saw a real democracy and progressive visionary thinking. I was so wrong. We are loosing our children in education, and in community. We need to realize that children are not dropping out because they lack the ability to learn. We cannot blame it all on parents or even on schools. We do not listen. We do not allow them to be heard. We are not interested in progression, and change. Rules are not meant to stand the test of time, but they are meant to be tested. If they did not our society would not be where it is. These children are being born to assist us in change. They are going to continue to make us pay attention, step up, and look in the mirror. I am what many may call a rebel parent. I teach my daughter to not take things at face value. Question the rules, not just follow them. I want her to make her own choices, and feel empowered to do so. I teach her to follow her own heart not what someone tells her. I also teach her how to practice discernment. Teaching our children is not just, about what we find in books. I always consider what kind of adult I am creating for the future. I call to parents and educators to step up, listen, and share. It is from your stories the children will learn. It is from listening to shall you. Have courage for change and growth. It can be miraculous.
The school put out a student handbook that had to be signed by students and parents. The students did not agree with the rules and regulations so they put together a petition against it. To my dismay, instead of the school using it as a teaching opportunity their solution was to remove the student signature page. I am so disappointed. This was such a great opportunity to teach. I had a vision of a student teacher debate, of teachers sitting down and picking apart the rules with the students, and discussing how to make them better and clearer. I saw a real democracy and progressive visionary thinking. I was so wrong. We are loosing our children in education, and in community. We need to realize that children are not dropping out because they lack the ability to learn. We cannot blame it all on parents or even on schools. We do not listen. We do not allow them to be heard. We are not interested in progression, and change. Rules are not meant to stand the test of time, but they are meant to be tested. If they did not our society would not be where it is. These children are being born to assist us in change. They are going to continue to make us pay attention, step up, and look in the mirror. I am what many may call a rebel parent. I teach my daughter to not take things at face value. Question the rules, not just follow them. I want her to make her own choices, and feel empowered to do so. I teach her to follow her own heart not what someone tells her. I also teach her how to practice discernment. Teaching our children is not just, about what we find in books. I always consider what kind of adult I am creating for the future. I call to parents and educators to step up, listen, and share. It is from your stories the children will learn. It is from listening to shall you. Have courage for change and growth. It can be miraculous.
Friday, September 4, 2009
Two Tips Take Care of Your Children During Flu Season
As we are moving quickly into what is considered flu season, there is a lot of fear moving about in concern for the Swine Flu. Instead of spending your time worrying, I suggest that you spend your time thinking about good health. Worry only brings more worry, sadness, pain, and anger. Consider what health looks like for you, and your family. There are a few things that you can do for prevention to maintain your health, and boost your immune system. Last year when everyone around us was sick, including the children we carpooled with, we were healthy. Here are two great tips that will help you stay healthy:
1. Emergen-C Packets
2. Green food drinks
Emergen-C Packets are packets of 1,000 mg of vitamin C, and can be dissolved in water. I like to carry them around in your pocket, and I always make sure that I travel with a couple of packets. They taste great, and the best part is that children love them. You can purchase them in several different flavors. They are really easy to use. All you have to do is pour the packet in a small glass of water and then drink. I make sure that I take a packet when I am feeling the slightest bit of a bug coming on. They work quickly and effective to knock out the stirrings of an illness.
Green food drinks might sound a bit unappetizing, but some of them are quite tasty. You might have to try a couple to find what works for you. However, the already prepared green drinks tend to taste better. You can usually purchase them in your local supermarket, or health food store. They can be a bit pricey, but so can illness. Both of my girls enjoy drinking them. Giordana will drink them all by herself if I do not watch her. She drinks about one a day to keep her healthy. Green drinks contain anti-oxidants, and super foods. The super foods are spirulina, wheat grass, barley grass, blue green algae, and chlorella. If your green drink contains any of these, you are on the right track. Super foods help to strengthen and detoxify the body.
As you try out your new tips toward health, please remember to play and be happy. Check back soon for more tips.
1. Emergen-C Packets
2. Green food drinks
Emergen-C Packets are packets of 1,000 mg of vitamin C, and can be dissolved in water. I like to carry them around in your pocket, and I always make sure that I travel with a couple of packets. They taste great, and the best part is that children love them. You can purchase them in several different flavors. They are really easy to use. All you have to do is pour the packet in a small glass of water and then drink. I make sure that I take a packet when I am feeling the slightest bit of a bug coming on. They work quickly and effective to knock out the stirrings of an illness.
Green food drinks might sound a bit unappetizing, but some of them are quite tasty. You might have to try a couple to find what works for you. However, the already prepared green drinks tend to taste better. You can usually purchase them in your local supermarket, or health food store. They can be a bit pricey, but so can illness. Both of my girls enjoy drinking them. Giordana will drink them all by herself if I do not watch her. She drinks about one a day to keep her healthy. Green drinks contain anti-oxidants, and super foods. The super foods are spirulina, wheat grass, barley grass, blue green algae, and chlorella. If your green drink contains any of these, you are on the right track. Super foods help to strengthen and detoxify the body.
As you try out your new tips toward health, please remember to play and be happy. Check back soon for more tips.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Instead of a New Year’s Resolution Try a New Year's Intention
What is a New Year’s resolution anyway? They seem to always start the same, and end the same, not happening. I think that they are something that we create to set ourselves up for failure. How many people do you know that actually achieve their resolution? I often wonder, why come the first day of the year do we set New Year’s Resolutions? Why do we always wait until another year passes before we have the courage to make a change? It is as if the New Year carries a sort of mystical magic that will assist us in following through with what we cannot obtain at any other time of the year. It seems to be the time to lose weight, start a new exercise regimen, make more money, and start eating healthy. At least these are the most common resolutions. All of these things signify that we have spent a whole year ignoring, or not liking ourselves. Come the New Year I will be better. Resolutions only set us up for failure. The key ingredient that is missing is Intention. Resolutions tend to be wishes, but just like all of the stories that offered the magic wish with one rub of the magic lamp; if we do not set a clear intention then we end up with something that we clearly are not wanting. We also do not consider the time, energy, and effort that goes into what we wish. We just want it to happen without considering all of the possibilities. This year how about instead of setting a resolution, set an intention. An intention is much more powerful, and says to the universe, I want, and I am ready to have that thing that I am wanting. I am ready to accept and receive. Intentions clear out the clutter that prevents you from having your best. There is also no such thing as failing an intention. Intentions set in motion the shift that is required for you to change, heal, and grow. When you fulfill an intention, you have arrived. It is the difference between buying that designer bag, and having the knock off. Intentions are solid, and create mental and emotional changes that will assist you in facilitating what you are wanting. I have watched people fail at New Year’s resolutions, because they are missing the mindset and the inner connection that is necessary to achieve the goal. Many times resolutions have us doing things that we do not like. We think we have to do this one thing. Get over the fact that we do not like it, so that we can achieve our goals. Intentions create the balance, and help us see that we are forcing instead of flowing with the creative energy necessary to create. To set an intention go to a quiet place; sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. Write down what it is that you desire. Why you want this desire, and why you believe you should have it. Instead of setting, an intention for the whole year set it for the day, the week, or the month. The point is to make the transition of your goal shorter so that it is more obtainable. As you get better at it, you can set larger intentions. Start with the smaller things. For example, let us say you want to set an intention of making your bed everyday. Do you want to achieve this because it makes your room neat and tidy, orb because it gives you a clear feeling when you enter your room, and your room is your sanctuary? What you are really saying is that you want to feel clear. The intention on the clarity will assist you in following through on making your bed. The intention brings you to the why, and what you are really wanting. So, find that quiet corner, relax, take a couple of deep breaths, and start having a conversation with your higher self on what you really want to create. You may be amazed at the results.
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